Thursday, March 5, 2015

Embracing Flaws

Today's post is very different from the usual, but it's a topic that I have wanted to shed some light on for awhile.  I came across this quote on Pinterest last night and it was a little reminder for me to finally write about it.  


I am not perfect.  You are not perfect.  No one is perfect.  That's the truth.  We all have flaws and they make us who we are.  Like the quote above says, perfection is uninteresting.  It is not realistic.  I don't know what it is about social media and the internet in general that makes so many of us feel like we need to portray this perfect image all of the time.  That is just not how life is.  All of my life, I have had my own insecurities that I have tried to work through.  For awhile, I would be extremely hard on myself about things. My friends would tell me that I was my own worst enemy. It made me take a step back and ask, "Why?  Why do you do this to yourself?"  On some level, I think I was doing it to protect myself.  I felt like if I pointed out my flaws to myself before anyone else did then it would hurt less when someone brought my imperfections to the light.  I just cared too much. 


I have been on this new personal journey and it's been very eye opening for me.  It's really made me see myself in a new light.  So many times we only see what is wrong about us instead of what is right.
We put ourselves down way too often and pick ourselves apart.  And then, we put a filter on it when what we really need to do is embrace who we are. Why are we so afraid of showing our flaws when every single person has them too?  If there is one thing that we all have in common it is that none of us are perfect.  I recently took a photo of a friend and she pointed out at least 3 things that she didn't like about herself in the picture.  I looked back at the photo and seriously did not notice any of those things that she pointed out.  I felt like we were looking at two completely different photos.  I said to her, "You have to stop.  You look gorgeous.  You ARE gorgeous."  But then I realized that this is how I have been for so much of my life.  Overanalyzing every flawed detail that probably wasn't even noticed by anyone else.  And even if it was, so what.  


If you haven't noticed by now, I have really bad posture.  I've had scoliosis since high school and this has been a huge insecurity of mine for many years.  People used to make fun of me and call me crooked.  Sometimes you can't see it, but other times it's very noticeable.  It sucks, but it could be worse.  Two of my bottom teeth are chipped.  Sometimes when I smile, my gums show because my teeth are small.  I have psoriasis that comes and goes, but when it comes, it gets really bad, especially on my legs.  My vision is horrible.  Without contacts or glasses, I cannot see a single thing.   Sometimes the bags under my eyes are so deep, it looks like I haven't slept in weeks.  I mean, this may all sound stupid or irrelevant, but these are some of my physical flaws and some of the insecurities that I have had and I don't want to hide behind them.  If I had perfect posture with perfect teeth and perfect skin and perfect vision and the perfect body, would I even be interesting?  Probably not. 


 The purpose of this post is to let you see more of who I am.  If you have been down on yourself or if you have your own personal insecurities, I hope that you were able to relate to this post in some way.  I hope that you can learn to see yourself in a brighter light and know that despite whatever imperfections you have, you are still beautiful.  We are all flawed and that is ok.  <3 


19 comments:

  1. i love this so much! to me you are perfect <3

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  2. Great post. You made me laugh and almost cry. You're an inspiration to us all, and as it seems, to yourself as well. Thank you for this honest post. Sometimes we really are our worst enemies, and sadly it takes a deep look in the mirror to realize how perfectly imperfect we really are.

    I always try to find beauty in everyday life, whether it is in someone or something, it's always there. <3

    Hope you're having a wonderful week.

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read it and for your sweet words. I truly appreciate it. And I completely agree. I try to find the beauty in things and people every day. So much love to you. <3 xo

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  3. I can't tell you how much I loved this post! I could just feel your honesty and positivity as I was reading it. After having a baby I have struggled so much with insecurities,and am completely guilty of comparing myself to others! Even though I looked good I didn't feel good, but I am now just taking it one day at a time and focusing on the positive things about me rather than the negative ones. Thank you for this reminder

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    1. I am so happy that you loved it and that you were able to relate to it. So good to know that you are focusing more on the positive things! <3 xo

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  4. Perfect timing for me to read this post. I'm currently struggling with insecurities from within and this post just made me feel better. Love this post Naty xoxo!!!

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  5. I love this post so much!
    Jordan K.
    Californianbella.blogspot.com

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  7. Love this! How funny is it that I wrote about the same thing earlier this week! Reading this is almost like I was reading about myself. I also have scoliosis since high school and suffer from winter Ecxema on my hands so I can totally relate. I think topics like this are so important to touch on because so many women are struggling with their insecurities on their own. I admire your honesty and am always happy to read a new post from you!

    xoxo

    xoxoFrancheska.com

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    1. So great that you have touched on this topic too! I definitely think it's an important one. Good to know that I am not alone in feeling this way. Thanks so much for checking out my post and for your kind words. xoxo

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  8. This is so great, babe! A perfect reminder to embrace your weird and own it. You are amazing!!

    xo,
    Amanda
    www.fashionableeme.com

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  9. So thoughtful of you to share your story with us, you are definitely an inspiration. We need more women like you !!! Happy International Women's Day btw!

    - http://rockitherway.blogspot.com/

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    1. That means a lot to me thank you love!! Happy Women's day to you too. May more of us continue to empower one another. xo

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  10. I love the honesty in this post, I are an inspiration for a lot of people as you can see in the comments , And I am one of them, You inspired me to create my own blog, to be believe in myself and I am happy for all the things that you have done in your blog since you started :)

    asweetjourneyblog.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much girl! I really appreciate it. It's so great that you have started a blog too! I wish you much success with it. :) Keep believing in yourself always. xo

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  11. What an inspirational and honest post!

    Cheers to us with chipped teeth, and not being able to see a thing without our gears! Lol

    Love,
    Ashleigh Em
    www.ashleighem.com

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